I’m seated here at local restaurant wondering to myself, do we all have that moment in life where we think to ourselves damn! I’ve changed! Either for good or for bad doesn’t matter because change is inevitable right?. No matter what we’ve become we aren’t who we were a few days, weeks, months or decades ago. In whatever case, I tend to believe change is good, scary at times, but good.
Being on the third floor, seems like a life changing event……don’t you think?. To me it’s 50 50. On one side, it feels great to come to the realisation that there are a few things that I do differently and there are those that are still the same. For instance,I feel mature (a little) and have grown to appreciate myself a little bit more but I’m still struggling with other things such as finding purpose in life. It’s pretty much amazing that nothing has changed over night and it’s all a gradual process.
I thought it would be fun to round up some of the biggest changes that I’ve realised and what seems similar in my 30s compared to my 20s.
SAME: I’M STILL TRYING TO FIGURE LIFE OUT
Let me be honest, I remember when I turned 25 I said to myself ” by the time I’m 30, I’d be the CEO of my own company and I’d be driving a Rolls Royce”… (Big dreams aye!). WOW!! That’s not the case ( but I’m working towards that though). Looking at my life now, I am not where I wanted to be and I haven’t figured out life yet, but I am happy and I am more focused. Up to this time, I have a million questions about life and I have a million mistakes to make. Nonetheless, I am trying to figure out my purpose in life and what I want in life. When I look around, I see people in there 50s, 60s and even 70s are still trying to reinvent and better themselves. So cheers to figuring life out!!
DIFFERENT: HANGOVERS ARE REAL
I used to be able to party all night (still do), but now, a night of drinking requires more recovery time than a minor surgery….(Hahaha i’m still cool though). After a night out of drinking a concoction of drinks, hangover hurts more than having my wisdom teeth taken out. That said doesn’t mean I’m done enjoying my Jack Daniels and cocktails.
SAME: MANAGING FINANCES ISN’T MY STRONG SUIT
I must confess that when it comes to finances I am still a rookie. I can’t compare to my 20s but I have become much better at saving money and setting financial goals for the future. One of my new years resolution for 2019 is to become better at managing finances and I cant wait to share more on how I am doing it.
DIFFERENT: I DON’T CARE WHAT PEOPLE THINK
In my previous blog “letter to my younger self” this is one of the advice I give my younger self. Growing up and throughout my 20s caring about what people had to say about me or their opinions about my life used to cripple me. Talk about wasting time!! I no longer try to fit in or be what people want me to be. Yes, I still think of what a few chosen people think, but I don’t live life based off of it.
SAME: I’M STILL CHASING THAT DREAM JOB
For most of us I am sure we are not yet working at our dream jobs (be it employed or not). For those in their 20s maybe the job you are in right now might be what you landed in your laps immediately after campus. Whereas for those in our 30s maybe we spent a decade deciding what to do with our career. Hopefully we will all move into a role that better suits our passions and skills. In the mean time, most of us are still trying to find that dream job that doesn’t feel like work.
DIFFERENT: I’M MORE COMFORTABLE IN MY OWN
“The moment will arrive when you are comfortable with who you are, and what you are– bald or old or fat or poor, successful or struggling- when you don’t feel the need to apologise for anything or to deny anything. To be comfortable in your own skin is the beginning of strength.” Charles Handy Thank gad for realising this!
OK your turn! What have you seen a change in and what feels exactly the same?